Marriage is not an achievement - Popular Nigerian blogger Linda Ikeji

Linda Ikeji, celebrity blogger, has admitted that she’s under “intense pressure” to find a husband.


Ikeji, whose marital status has been a recurring subject of public discourse, says she is fed up of being constantly prodded by “family and friends” to get married.

The famous blogger spoke on the subject, ‘Pressure To Marry Before 30′, alongside two other women, in a recent feature on Genevieve Magazine.

“Marriage is not an achievement. There is so much more to life than being someone’s wife,” Ikeji said defiantly while also underscoring the importance of settling down.

“Get married please, but don’t be pressured into it.”

Seemingly unnerved by her own personal experience, Ikeji further said: “I don’t know how many of you single girls are under pressure to get married but I am. Pressure from family, friends and people who just can’t mind their business.

“The pressure is so intense right now I feel like going to husband market – if there is any such thing – to buy myself some breathing space. Give me a break, you people.”

Chigurl, a comedian, singer and actress, believes women allow themselves to be affected by the constant nagging of relatives and parents.

“In my opinion, the pressure is not a fabrication. It is very real. After you have won aso-ebi about a million times, you begin to wonder when it is going to be your turn to sell aso-ebi too. And when you factor in mums and aunties constantly reminding you about the shelf life of women. It gets to you, even if it is just a bit.”

She argued that marriages are prone to failure when a couple is pressured to walk down the aisle.

“People may even suggest some very strange things to you to do to ‘earn’ marriage. Well, I have come to realise that we allow ourselves to be pressured.

“The decision to get married should not be taken because you are being pressured, that could lead to a disaster. Don’t let anyone make you go into anything you are not ready for or your joy may be short-lived. And to those mounting pressure on others to go and get married, there is simply no justification for your behaviour.”

Betty Irabor, publisher of Genevieve Magazine, contributed in form of a counsel to single women who are consumed with nothing but thoughts of marriage.

According to Irabor, every woman requires marriage education from the “school of life” and as such, being unmarried by 30 is not such a big deal.

“I don’t think women should be worried about being married before 30 because many women before that age have not yet gone through the school of life which prepares them for marriage,” she said.

In Africa and some other parts of the world, society tends to view an unmarried woman as being incomplete, however, the cloud of modernity is slowly changing the trite belief.