Lifestyle: Dating a man of God

The conduct and attitude of a person occupying a position says a lot about them as well as the one who appointed or elected them. Like a president who is elected by a whole nation, it is easy for anyone to question them when they don’t act in a way and manner as expected.

But when it comes to the office of the man of God, these offices are occupied by people called or ordained by God and are accountable to God and not men. The difficulty lies in differentiating between who is called by God and who is not; who is fake and who is real.

Since the Lord says in 1 Chronicles 16:22 (NLT) that "Do not touch my chosen people, and do not hurt my prophets”, it is hard for many to question. Also because we didn't play any role in their appointments it makes it impossible for them to be accountable to men.

When it comes to marriage, many people love to settle down with a person who loves the things of God. Many women want to get married to men of God, which is fine. However because many of these ladies are not in tune with God or do not have a good relationship with Him, they are not able to verify who is real or fake.

They are therefore easily swayed by appearance forgetting God looks at the heart and this allows these fake men of God to take advantage of them. Some of the ladies become mere sex objects to the men. They use these naive ladies as their stress relievers. The sad part is that many of the ladies who fall victims don't even where these men of God live. Hotels and guest houses are their meeting places.

Their lame excuse is that they are popular and their reputation is at stake so they should play it safe and relate underground. Some of the ladies have had a number of abortions for these men of God, with the assurance that they will get married to them one day.

God doesn't endorse sin no matter the grace He has available for us. Each single soul is precious to God. He is not happy with any man who acts as His ambassador working for the enemy who is Satan.

If you are a young lady and want to marry a man of God, please do so because you want to be his helper not because of his popularity or the tithe he receives from his church. A helper in the sense that his business is your business, you are not going in because of the harvest but you are involved in the labour.

Jesus Christ the son of God was not popular when He was working for His Father. Judas Iscariot had to kiss him before His killers could figure Him out. The Kingdom business is not about fame or popularity; it is about serving God faithfully with whatever He has given you.

No man of God wants to have a wife who doesn't support him. If you don't have the heart and desire to serve God, don't date any man of God in the first place. If you are dating him because you think having the gift to sing well makes you the ideal wife for him, you are wrong. You will be replaced when he gets someone who sings better and supports him.

Sin is sin not matter who is leading you to it. Don't allow yourself to be used; don’t lose your soul in the name of a marriage which may not even come to pass.

In conclusion "Dear friends, do not believe everyone who claims to speak by the Spirit. You must test them to see if the spirit they have comes from God. For there are many false prophets in the world.” - 1 John 4:1 (NLT).